tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392075129624872794.post5512212435694810284..comments2023-10-07T10:11:49.445+01:00Comments on Peacock Feathers & Diamond Rings: The Bitch in the House (ed. Cathi Hanauer)Rachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15452082852708707013noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392075129624872794.post-2781865352394739822011-03-11T12:51:37.088+00:002011-03-11T12:51:37.088+00:00I read this book a few years ago and by the time I...I read this book a few years ago and by the time I finished it I was just so angry, wondering why so many women were accepting their lot like there was nothing they could do about it. Your story at the end about the other dancers had the same effect on me. Don't they discuss this stuff with their husbands?! Ugh.Cate Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00272234788337670115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392075129624872794.post-58607964424470644392011-03-04T16:17:31.547+00:002011-03-04T16:17:31.547+00:00I've found it hard to relate to a lot of the b...I've found it hard to relate to a lot of the book, also. And that open marriage chapter - oh, it was so sad to me. I know the author acknowledged a type of sadness, but...I don't know how to explain it. I guess it works for them, so it's fine; but that situation is so not okay for my own relationship.<br /><br />I think I've actually related more to some of the body image issues in the book. It's something I'm struggling with a lot right now, since I've gained quite a bit of weight rather quickly (effing PCOS...). But I'm afraid to talk about it with most of my friends because I've always been the "small, petite" one; the one who gets eye rolls at mentioning the need to work out more; the one who gets the "oh, whatever" comments if losing weight is even vaguely hinted at. It's just a no-win situation, this body image stuff.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17468276901563947172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392075129624872794.post-21116226537645030652011-03-04T14:51:30.481+00:002011-03-04T14:51:30.481+00:00I am LOVING your exercise regime - sex and dancing...I am LOVING your exercise regime - sex and dancing?? Suddenly the treadmill seems reeeeally unappealing.<br /><br />I'm reading this for APW too, except nobody is around for a Scotland meet-up - boo. Still, I've found it very interesting and it's made me really want to read more feminist writing - I'm so uneducated about feminism, I think it's easy for our generation to be complacent and believe the war has been won, yet every day we're surrounded by evidence that that's not the case (from the mums in your dance class to the Planned Parenthood stuff in the States - even in supposedly "developed" countries it feels like we are almost slipping backwards).<br /><br />Totally with you on the open marriage essay too - it just seemed so sad, like they were missing out on all the best things about being married.Kirsty | A Safe Mooringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05245573480136807303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6392075129624872794.post-74729857389777370302011-03-04T14:03:00.095+00:002011-03-04T14:03:00.095+00:00Re: body issues. I have the same problem, where I...Re: body issues. I have the same problem, where I'm deemed 'skinny' but people question me all the time. I eat and I'm healthy, but I have people constantly telling me to gain a few pounds or if I say I want to work out (to tone muscles, lose a little tummy pooch) I get dismayed looks. I worked in a lingerie shop for a while and a curvier girl came in who, when both I and her boyfriend told her she looked good in a certain babydoll (which she did!), flew into a rage about how skinny I was and how perfect I must always look in the merchandise. Then they left without buying anything. It was frustrating. It's nice to know I'm not alone over here.Abigailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01953171906824711575noreply@blogger.com