No-one will notice...

Call me ignorant, call me English, but I don't know what WIC stands for. It is mentioned frequently in a disparaging way so I know that *it is bad* but I don't know exactly what it means. Every time I read the term, I think of Wicca, the witches of the wedding world. Wedding Industry Crones perhaps. Commercial witches who tell brides that 'you only get one wedding' so you'd better get it right. This isn't just *a* party, it is *the* party against which you will always be judged. Forget what you want, this is about what you *should* want.

Thank goodness for blogging then. For intelligent, well articulated girls from all countries and demographics and cultures, united by one thought: bride doesn't equal sheep. Or that is my thought. Others put it a little differently.

Cate says of venues "you're having a party there, not buying the place".

Meg says (and we have argued fiercely about the ins and outs of some things, but she is still fab) "that we're people, not just brides". She says a lot more too, but I don't want to paraphrase her too much here...

Peonies says "it's not about the details", which takes a lot to remember sometimes.

{And there is many more besides, those are just the quotes I could remember off-hand}

These are the things which are keeping me sane when the following takes place.

The Scene: 12.30am Peacockfeathers and M lay in bed. M reads. Peacockfeathers is lying there with her sleep mask on and a lavender bag handy, waiting for M to finish reading and to put the blxxdy light out.

P: So you sent the ribbon order off then baby?

M: Hmmm. Yes.

P: And you took a photocopy of the order form?

M: Hmmm. No.

P: Ok. {what, but I asked him to...} Let's hope they send the right thing.

M: I should think they will. We'll sort it out if they don't.

P: Ok. Did you order 4mm ribbon. Do you think 4mm ribbon will be ok? Do you think it will work with the size of tag we ordered. Do you think we should have gone with narrower ribbon?

M: Rachel. The ribbon will be fine. Go to sleep. Let me read. No wonder it takes me weeks to read anything. Be quiet. No-one will notice.

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And he is right. It is something I have said many times before. No-one will notice. And if they do, who is going to mention it on the day?

So, brides aren't sheep. And no-one will notice.

I think I need to get better and stop thinking so much.